I should call this post, Why I Say No a Lot and All My
Friends Think I’m a Colossal Bitch, but that’s a mouthful and they’d like it
way too much. But it’s true.
For whatever reason, I get a lot of people asking me to read
something they’ve written, and more times than I like to think about, it’s
something unfinished. My answer? Not a chance. I am happy to read it when it’s
done. It’s okay, I’ll wait.
I understand the urge to get feedback before you’ve finished
something. I get it too. Usually I try to rapidly squash it with a hammer…or
the nearest door, and I recommend that you try the same. It’s natural to want
to share your words as soon as possible but, if those words are still pouring
out, it’s a terrible, horrible, awful bad idea.
Why? Because despite our surface level intentions, when
we get absolutely brutally honest about it, the motivation for wanting to share
at this stage is most likely to get praise. What we usually really want is a
big ol round of, Oh My God, This Is The Most Brilliant Thing Ever Written. We
want to hear that we are not writing in vain, that our words are golden and
that, once we buck up and finish the grueling task of getting this story down,
it will be perfect, shiny, splendid, and we will never have to work on it
again.
Ha, I say. Ha! You just made me laugh so hard that I snorted
my coffee.
Just for a second let’s pretend I’m not a bitch and I don’t
enjoy trashing other people’s work. Let’s pretend, in fact, that I love to
encourage new writers, that I’m absolutely passionate about it. I’m still going
to be honest about someone's writing. If they trusts me enough to ask for
feedback, I feel like I owe them that, and even if I love the book. Love love
love it, I’m going to find something to mention that isn’t 100% glowy praise.
Also, never has a first draft been written that didn’t need editing, lots and
lots of editing. I believe that. So if you think you can get around that stage,
I’m totally the wrong person to come talk to.
I will laugh shamelessly at you.
Okay, that’s out of the way. Now, what are the main reasons
I hate to read unfinished books from, well, anyone? First off, one comment said
casually could be taken the wrong way, could be seen as the crushing
evidence that they should never write another word, that they should at least
scrap this novel and start a different one, that they should never finish this
story. That is one huge ass risk, and I refuse to take it on. I will not be
responsible for a story not getting told. In fact, I have nightmares about that
very thing. It’s probably something I should discuss with a therapist and not
here.
So! The next reason…If you haven’t told your whole, entire
story to its finish, then something I say might change its trajectory. In fact,
you might not end up writing the same story you
intended to write at all. In the editing phase, it’s all about taking feedback,
but while you are still writing, I think you have to get your story down. The one you are meant to write. Alone. Write the
story you want to tell, your way, all the way to the end first. Then go looking
for help with sorting it out.
All this stuff aside, my final reason is where the real
issue comes to the surface. You see, if they haven’t finished this thing,
how do I know they ever will? The majority of would be authors don’t finish.
Never do. That’s not really my problem, until they ask me to devote time and
effort to read it and give them feedback. Now it is my problem, because like it
or not I don’t want to invest a lot of time and effort (and I do put a lot of
effort into beta reads and such) if I’m not even sure they’ll finish the
story…ever, no matter what I say.
The bitchy part is that makes me feel like they’re wasting my
time. I believe that finishing what you write is the hardest part of writing.
It’s the one and only thing that separates a want-to-be author from an author
in my book. It’s the thing. Finishing
is bigger than starting, more important than all the writing they’ve done so far
and scarier than the editing they are imagining at the end of the tunnel will ever
be. It’s also the one thing they have to do if any of the other stuff is even
going to matter. Finishing. Getting to the end.
Please don’t risk not making it by asking for my feedback prematurely. I won’t be one more thing in a long list of excuses you’ve collected for not reaching the end. It wouldn’t help you one bit if I was.
Please don’t risk not making it by asking for my feedback prematurely. I won’t be one more thing in a long list of excuses you’ve collected for not reaching the end. It wouldn’t help you one bit if I was.
Finish it first. Prove that you can.
The proof is in the pudding, you see. I have author friends
who I know can finish things, friends who churn out finished projects on a
regular basis. Should any of them come asking for feedback in the middle of a
project (most of them are smart enough not to) I will consider it. Maybe.
Depending on the circumstances and the individual, how busy I am or how pissy
I feel that day. Anyway, I’ll probably still say no, but the point is a lot of
my hesitation would be gone simply because I could trust that I won’t kill
their story completely with one comment. Some of them, I I’d probably only make
so mad they’d have to finish just to prove me wrong. . .
But that’s a whole different topic, and I’m riled up enough
as it is.
Finish your book before you let anyone see it.
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